When I was twenty-four years old, I got "Be Kind To Yourself" tattooed on my rib cage. It was designed backwards so that I could read it in the mirror and be reminded every day. I was coming out of a particularly turbulent few years, and this idea seemed like the perfect beautiful reminder to treat myself well, and often.
I think at the time I thought of self love as a destination. If I put in enough time, energy and intention - maybe one day I would arrive at this mystical place of fully loving myself. Now, at thirty-four years old, I realise it is not a destination - but a matter of habit, daily actions and rituals. I am pretty consistent with these actions nowadays, but when I'm feeling off or not vibing high, I ask myself one very powerful question:
"What would someone who loves themselves do?"
Suddenly everything becomes clear and I usually know what action to take. Usually this means to take a 30 minute break and run a bath, even if it's in the middle of the day. Those are the best ones! Often, if I am feeling particularly exhausted or drained, it means ignoring my phone. Totally and completely. If nothing is of high priority and does not require an immediate answer - the texts, emails and messages can wait until tomorrow. They really can. Sometimes it is as easy as drinking a big glass of water and taking some deep breaths to ground myself in the present moment.
Honouring yourself and your energy is always a good thing.
Since my car accident in March, I have been very focused on my journey of recovery, healing and self care. I have to listen to my body, and my leg, and honour what it needs. If I don't, I often pay the price and spend the next day in pain. Every single day, I am making sure that I am doing something to honour and treat myself well. I have to say, I've become very good at this since that tattoo was embedded into my skin ten years ago.
If you don't take care of yourself, you can't be your best for the people you love. It is a win / win situation.
How can you tune into your self care today? Maybe it means going to bed a little earlier tonight. Maybe it means quitting that dead-end job that you hate. Maybe it means leaving that piece-of-shit husband / girlfriend / wife / boyfriend once and for all. What if you're a mom of three and can't get a single minute to yourself no matter how hard you try? Ask your husband, friend, family member or hire a babysitter. Have a bath. Wine and dine yourself. Take the night off. You out of all people definitely deserve it!
Does it make you feel good and add value to your life? No? Let that shit go.
Other examples would be extra rest, skipping the gym, eating the burger, rescheduling plans or the extreme - cutting ties with people who are energy vampires and add zero value to your world. I do all these things with zero guilt, because I know myself and what is best for me.
Loving yourself and treating yourself well is one of the best things you can do. For you, for your family, for the world. Everyone benefits.
Let this mug be a reminder to take the best care of yourself today. You can feel good about this purchase because partial proceeds will be going to a group who is doing good really good work in the world.